It is a part of the national curriculum that marriage is learnt in Form 5 syllabus of Pendidikan Agama Islam. As far as I notice, I have no against toward the institution, and also fully understand the importance of the said institution, including how it affects the community. Of course, as the topic is learnt as a part of religion studies, guidance are also taught through hadiths and Quranic verses.

Throughout the lesson, which here is my personal experience, my ustaz a few times jokingly asked if there is anyone who doesn’t want to get hitched. A female classmate, being herself straightforward, undoubtedly made it clear that she doesn’t wish to be establish such institution. Our ustaz then said that marriage is a sunnah, and that it is not alright to despise a sunnah. This, I personally disagree with the understanding of the ustaz, as for what I understand, my friend did not mean that she despise marriage, but simply that she does not wish to get married later. This is what I intend to elaborate in this writing from, of course, my understanding.

Before girls and boys depart into their own arcs of marriage, many of us have been a part of a marriage institution, as children. From my shallow reading of psychology, it seems like childhood plays a vital part in shaping the mental aspect of humans. What can we do? I mean, we cannot help but to learn and take lessons from what we have been through, let it be consciously or or unconsciously, in order to survive. Other than that, we also let our mental aspect to adapt by building their own defense mechanism.